How to Apply the Let Them Theory (With Journal Prompts)
Have you ever found yourself frustrated by someone’s actions, feeling like if only they’d do things your way, everything would be better? Maybe a friend didn’t show up the way you expected, a colleague took credit for your work, or a partner made a choice that left you feeling unheard. Instead of wasting your energy trying to control the situation, what if you could just… let them?
The Let Them Theory, introduced by Mel Robbins, is a mindset shift that can bring you peace, empowerment, and a sense of freedom. It’s about recognizing that people will do what they’re going to do—and instead of resisting it, you can simply let them and refocus on your own growth.
Following our incredible Femmillionaires GALentine’s Brunch on February 15th, where we explored this powerful concept, we’re diving deeper into how you can apply the Let Them Theory in your daily life—plus, we’re giving you guided journal prompts to help you integrate it.
✨ What Is the Let Them Theory? ✨
The Let Them Theory is simple:
- When someone cancels plans last minute? Let them.
- When a friend doesn’t support your business? Let them.
- When a partner makes a decision you wouldn’t have? Let them.
- When someone gossips or acts out of alignment with your values? Let them.
Instead of reacting, controlling, or forcing outcomes, you release. You focus on yourself. You conserve your energy for things that actually align with your purpose.
💡 How to Apply the Let Them Theory in Your Life 💡
Here are five ways to actively use the Let Them Theory:
1️⃣ Identify What You’re Trying to Control
Take a moment to reflect. What situations or people are causing you stress because they’re not acting the way you want?
Journal Prompt: What is one situation where I feel resistance to letting someone make their own decisions? Why does it bother me?
2️⃣ Recognize That Their Actions Are About Them, Not You
People make choices based on their own beliefs, priorities, and past experiences. It’s rarely personal.
Journal Prompt: What if I fully accepted that their behavior has nothing to do with me? How would that change my emotions?
3️⃣ Set Boundaries Instead of Controlling
Letting them doesn’t mean tolerating mistreatment. You can still set healthy boundaries and remove yourself from situations that don’t serve you.
Journal Prompt: Where do I need to set a boundary rather than trying to control someone’s actions?
4️⃣ Redirect Energy to Your Own Growth
Instead of focusing on others, channel that energy into your own goals, self-care, and personal development.
Journal Prompt: If I stopped trying to manage others, what could I do with that extra energy?
5️⃣ Practice Letting Go Daily
Letting go isn’t a one-time event—it’s a daily practice. Each time you feel triggered, take a deep breath and say, “Let them.”
Journal Prompt: How can I remind myself to practice letting go in moments of frustration?
📖 Real-Life Example from Femmillionaires GALentine’s Brunch 📖
During our recent Femmillionaires event, Linda Chevrier shared how embracing the Let Them Theory helped her stop overextending herself for people who weren’t reciprocating. The shift allowed her to focus more on aligned opportunities—and the results were game-changing.
We had an incredible response from attendees who were eager to integrate this mindset into their lives. If you missed the brunch, don’t worry—we’ve got more transformational events coming soon!
🚀 Ready for More Femmillionaire Wisdom? 🚀
Applying the Let Them Theory is just the beginning. Imagine what your life could look like if you fully stepped into your power and focused on what truly matters.
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